About Heidi
What you’ve been taught doesn’t always fit.
I work with people who are ready to see that—
and choose differently.
I didn’t always see it clearly—
how I’d been taught to turn away from myself.
There was a man.
Gorgeous. Intense. Certain of himself.
Self-proclaimed control freak.
The sex? Super hot.
At first, I thought his controlling behavior was sexy.
I was his. No one else could touch me.
He demanded I write “his property” on my body.
And I did.
With a black Sharpie.
Several times.
Right over my left breast.
Not with surrender.
Not with seduction.
But with compliance.
I felt turned on.
And small. Conflicted.
Part of me wanted to please him.
But part of me felt disgusted.
Furious.
Not just with him.
With myself.
I realized how easily I’d been taught to confuse being chosen with being owned.
And how normal it felt.
That moment ignited something in me.
What I See Now
I see relationships differently.
I’m not interested in being chosen if that means abandoning myself.
I’m not interested in shrinking to be wanted.
I want to choose—
not have choices made for me.
That changed how I see everything.
Hi. I’m Heidi.
At some point, what you’ve been taught stops fitting.
That’s usually where my work begins.
And it’s not just my story.
What I Do
I help people untangle patterns they’ve been shaped by—
especially in relationships, intimacy, and self-expression—
so they can move through life more honestly
and feel more like themselves.
Overtime, I started noticing who this work resonates with.
Who This is For
This work tends to resonate with people who:
feel like something doesn’t fit anymore
are questioning what they’ve been taught about relationships or desire
are tired of shrinking, overgiving, or performing
want something more honest—even if they can’t name it yet
And just as importantly…
Who This Isn’t For
This space may not be a fit if you’re:
looking for quick answers or step-by-step formulas
wanting to be told what to do instead of discovering what’s true for you
more interested in staying comfortable than being honest
hoping for surface-level change without going deeper
How I Work
My work is emotional, somatic, and relational.
It’s not about fixing you.
It’s about seeing clearly—
and choosing differently.
A Little About Me
I have a PhD in Sociology.
I’ve spent years studying patterns—both academically and personally.
I’m also someone who experiments, notices, and pays attention
to what’s actually happening beneath the surface.
And yes—sometimes that includes making art with marshmallow bunnies.
I’ve you’ve made it this far…
If This Resonates
If something here resonates, you can work with me.
You don’t have to become someone new.
Just more yourself.